Parenting
There’s no one right way of parenting. Don’t ever let someone, especially if they are not a parent, to tell you that you are wrong (unless what you are doing harm others). It is likely that both approaches are right. What is right depends on you and your child, and both of you are unique.
As such, there is no one-size-fits-all approach that anyone can offer you. The hot water that softens a carrot will harden an egg. As a parent, you will try many things with your child that simply won’t work. When this happens, it can be very easy to view it as a failure. Don’t. If anything, it’s the opposite. If you recount our discussion of emergent and deliberate strategy—the balance between your plans and unanticipated opportunities—then you’ll know that getting something wrong doesn’t mean you have failed. Instead, you have just learned what does not work. You now know to try something else.